Marriage…
What is marriage? Some people see it as a piece of paper, becoming one with their soul mate, or just a next step. Some people go into marriage for the wrong reasons, or just because they are ready to have children.
Marriage to me is a LOT of work! People become very comfortable, and sometimes lose sense of each other and themselves. It is very important to make sure you take care of your self and each other for a marriage to work. Some people try and go back to those first moments, and re-create what made them fall in love with one another. Couples will try and find new ways to fall in love. When a married couple have children, they can become wrapped up in being parents due to their busy schedules, endless chores, working long hours, family activities, etc., and then they forget to work on themselves as husband and wife.
My husband and I were together 7 years. I felt like I was ready to be a mother. I grew up Catholic, and due to my traditional upbringing, I wanted to be married before we started growing our family. We planned our life together and wed 2 years later. Funny thing, we only enjoyed being husband and wife a short time. A month later we found out we were expecting. I took that as my sign that everything was meant to be.
I believe our relationship before marriage was very similar to those who were already married though. In the beginning of our relationship, we would go everywhere and do just about anything. We were very active. After a few years, we became pretty comfortable with other. We stayed in more and did less. Unfortunately, we did forget to focus on making each other happy, which resulted in a few breakups. We always ended up together again though, because we realized we have to keep working on our relationship.
Our timeline…Dating (and living together nearly this long too) for seven and a half years, engaged for a year and a half, married nine years, and now two kids along…we grew to learn how to manage our emotions, feelings, differences, and how to listen, compromise, and work together. Talk to each other as much as you can, about anything and everything, go out and enjoy each other’s company, and make sure the two of you are always close to, if not on, the same page. You will be destined for a successful and happy marriage for years to come!
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